Maturity Indicators Part b

Friday night was movies night with my high school buddies.
Met up at the pambansang coffee shop ng Pilipinas, then transferred to a restaurant owned by a celebrity/entrepreneur.

I have observed that a lot of things has changed. Friendship lang namin ang hindi nagbago through the years.
But these changes are good as I see it.

These are the Maturity Indicators of my high school friends:

Una. May buntis na kaming kasama sa paghang-out. That means they are already fulfilling the commandment na "Humayo kayo at magpakarami", though matagal ko na sinusunod 'to di lang nabubuo. hehe!

Pangalawa. Dati-rati puro non-sense ang usapan, may mapagtawanan lang. Ngayon tungkol sa lovelife at marriage ang pinaguusapan. Pati RH Bill nadiscuss pa. (at galit din sila kay Teodoro Bacani)

Pangatlo. Dati-rati di mo mabanggit banggit ang salitang "sex" dahil baka maka-offend ka unlike now we openly talk about sex and the likes. (After dinner naman para respeto naman sa food.) Mukhang sobra na nga kung pag-usapan eh!

Pang-apat. Dati-rati puro gossips ang topic, ngayon mga plan sa buhay na ang discussion. Isa sa mga planong pinag-usapan ay family planning. (Naungkat na naman ang RH Bill, proRH naman kami lahat)

Pang-lima. Pagkatapos ng movie, mangilan-ilan na lang kami ang gusto mag-stay. Karamihan ay gusto na umuwi Syempre sila yung may mga kanya-kanyang pamilya na.

Last but not the least, kitang kita mo na yung pagiging malawak ng bawat isa. Anlaki na ng maturity compared nung high school pa lang kami.

During dinner, one of the highlights of the night was my friend's marriage problem. Itago natin sila sa pangalang Panchita at Leopoldo.
We did not in-expect that she'll open up just like that. Isa rin yun sa maturity indicator nya.
Panchita and Leopoldo were married January this year lang and yet they are already facing intimacy problem at an early time.
Yes. Intimacy issues. To be married 4 months pa lang is too early for intimacy issues.
She even showed us what she wrote ( she wrote about her feelings when she confided on one of out friends).
It was heart breaking. I can't describe how lonely she feels.
She felt insecure, she felt deprived, she felt unwanted.
Apparently, Panchita shared to us their daily routine.
Ayos naman daw ang lahat bukod lang kapag matutulog at magsisiping na.

Me: "Ilang beses in a month?"
Panchita: "Once.."
Everyone: "HA?!"
Me: "Tol, considered newly weds pa kayo. Dapat ngayon niyo pa lang nalalaman kung gaano kayo ka-wild!" hahaha
Panchita: "Minsan nga once in two months pa"
Me:" Seryoso ka ba?

Reyna rin kasi ng fried chicken itong si Panchita. Palibhasa maganda kaya hindi sanay na she's the one who's asking for something. napakataas ng pride.
I was surprised to hear the comments and advices from my friends. Anlaki na talaga ng pinagbago. Normally we'd be siding with Panchita, syempre friend mo muna. But now everyone balanced the scales. Everyone agreed that one of them should give up their pride. Affection should not be asked for. It is supposed to be automatic in marriage. The problem is that they both give each other a cold shoulder. Avoiding discussions, or sometimes talk but never really settled for a problem fix.

I felt happy (not about what's happening to Panchita) seeing how my friends matured to this day. I felt blessed and confident that when the time comes that i'll be the one who's going to need help, I'll gladly cry into their arms for refuge.

More maturity indicators were revealed as we moved to Morato for more talk plus drinking spree. That will be Part c of my post: The Revelation.

Panchita and I exchanged e-mails after a few days delivering a good news. They talked already and she was very proud to say that she's the one who gave up her pride first. Another maturity indicator for her! They are now working on it with the help of our prayers.

Wala ako sa office. Late ako dumating. Mas mamatamisin ko pa kasing mag-half day kesa sumakit ang ulo sa paggawa ng explanation letter at pagdedefend nito kapag pumasok akong late. At least productive pa rin. Nakapag sulat na naman ako.

Maturity Indicators Part a

Signs of aging. LOL!
Realizations over the weekend. I am indeed getting older.
It's inevitable. It's the destination that everyone will end up.
You can re-route, choose different paths but will all fall into the same finish line.
I remember when I was young, I was impatient on growing up.
I wanted to fast forward things, I wanted to grow up really fast.
Ironically, the opposite is happening now.
I want to pause and freeze time now that I'm all grown up.
I miss my childhood and the stupid things that came with it.
I compare how I can get away with things because I was young.
I miss those days when I don't have to worry about anything.
When I don't have to worry about what to eat, today or tomorrow.
When I don't have to worry about what to wear, today or tomorrow.
When I don't have to worry about getting to bed early because I got to get up early the next day
When I don't have to think of ways to get laid, today or tomorrow.
When I don't have to worry about everything that happens in my life.

Those were the days when I was care-free.
Listening to the optimist in me, I have decided to embrace it.
Instead of using the words "getting old", I prefer to call this phase "maturity".

Maturity, as hyperdictionary defines it:
[n] state of being mature; full development
[n] the period of time in your life after your physical growth has stopped and you are fully developed.
[n] the date on which a financial obligation must be repaid.

State of being mature; full development:
Hmmm, am I already at maximum development? I guess not yet. I'm still on the process. Physically, Mentally, Emotionally and Spiritually. Still on the process of exploring thyself. Knowing and loving thyself more. Letting go of those things that may obstruct my path to maturity.

The period of time in your life after your physical growth has stopped and you are fully developed:
This pertains to the physical aspect. Physically our body stops growing at some point.

The date on which a financial obligation must be repaid:
This is when maturity is used in a financial sense. But we can think of it as this: Maturity can be a phase when our obligation to the world can be repaid. This is the time when we can make a difference. This is the time when we can give back to everyone or everything that contributed to who we are right now. It's payback time!

So whenever you feel you are getting old, think of it as "getting matured", walking to the path of maturity, of wisdom.
Since everyone is destined to take that road, it all boils down on how we walk through it. It all comes down of the quality of life we put into it.
It's how you lived your life.

You, what are your maturity indicators? (continued on next post)

Naks, masyadong seryoso ang post ko. Hindi ko napigilan ang flow of ideas habang pumepetiks dito sa office.
Mas creative pala magsulat pag andito sa office. hahaha

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Ako si Anonimo. Animo na lang for short. Walang alam sa pagsusulat. Ang mga usual readers ko lang noon ay mga close kong kaibigan. Sinasabi nilang may gift daw ako sa pagsusulat dahil enjoy na enjoy sila sa pagbabasa ng mga sinusulat ko. Syempre hindi ko naman sila pinaniniwalaan dahil mga kaibigan ko sila. hehe They're just being nice, mahal nila ako kaya tinatangkilik nila ako. Salamat sa ilan kong kaibigan na sobrang kulit sa pamimilit na gumawa ako ng sarili kong blog. Kailan ko lang muli napagisipan ang idea na ito at naalala ko ang personal blog na ginawa ko noon na nasa ilalim na ng alikabok. Binuhay ko itong muli at natuklasan ko na mayroong 3 posts doon at wala pa itong mga kwenta. hehe Sa ngayon marami na siyang posts (mga wala parin kwenta) at mga re-blogs galing sa ibang blog site (buti pa yung reblogs may sense). Syempre ang blog na yun ay personal, nakalathala doon ang impormasyon na magtuturo sa aking tunay na pagkatao pati ang aking twitter at facebook. Naisip kong gumawa ng isa pang blog. Isang blog na no-holds-barred. Isang blog na walang takot. Isang blog na mas maibubuhos ko ang tunay na nilalaman ng aking puso't damdamin. (Parang nagiging panatang makabayaan na yata.) Isang blog na sinusundan ng hindi lamang sa gwapo ang may akda at maraming gustong dumiskarte sa kanya. Isang blog na magiging extension ng pagkatao ko. Isang blog na pwede kong ilathala ang "Nagsusumigaw kong Bulong.."