Maturity Indicators Part b

Friday night was movies night with my high school buddies.
Met up at the pambansang coffee shop ng Pilipinas, then transferred to a restaurant owned by a celebrity/entrepreneur.

I have observed that a lot of things has changed. Friendship lang namin ang hindi nagbago through the years.
But these changes are good as I see it.

These are the Maturity Indicators of my high school friends:

Una. May buntis na kaming kasama sa paghang-out. That means they are already fulfilling the commandment na "Humayo kayo at magpakarami", though matagal ko na sinusunod 'to di lang nabubuo. hehe!

Pangalawa. Dati-rati puro non-sense ang usapan, may mapagtawanan lang. Ngayon tungkol sa lovelife at marriage ang pinaguusapan. Pati RH Bill nadiscuss pa. (at galit din sila kay Teodoro Bacani)

Pangatlo. Dati-rati di mo mabanggit banggit ang salitang "sex" dahil baka maka-offend ka unlike now we openly talk about sex and the likes. (After dinner naman para respeto naman sa food.) Mukhang sobra na nga kung pag-usapan eh!

Pang-apat. Dati-rati puro gossips ang topic, ngayon mga plan sa buhay na ang discussion. Isa sa mga planong pinag-usapan ay family planning. (Naungkat na naman ang RH Bill, proRH naman kami lahat)

Pang-lima. Pagkatapos ng movie, mangilan-ilan na lang kami ang gusto mag-stay. Karamihan ay gusto na umuwi Syempre sila yung may mga kanya-kanyang pamilya na.

Last but not the least, kitang kita mo na yung pagiging malawak ng bawat isa. Anlaki na ng maturity compared nung high school pa lang kami.

During dinner, one of the highlights of the night was my friend's marriage problem. Itago natin sila sa pangalang Panchita at Leopoldo.
We did not in-expect that she'll open up just like that. Isa rin yun sa maturity indicator nya.
Panchita and Leopoldo were married January this year lang and yet they are already facing intimacy problem at an early time.
Yes. Intimacy issues. To be married 4 months pa lang is too early for intimacy issues.
She even showed us what she wrote ( she wrote about her feelings when she confided on one of out friends).
It was heart breaking. I can't describe how lonely she feels.
She felt insecure, she felt deprived, she felt unwanted.
Apparently, Panchita shared to us their daily routine.
Ayos naman daw ang lahat bukod lang kapag matutulog at magsisiping na.

Me: "Ilang beses in a month?"
Panchita: "Once.."
Everyone: "HA?!"
Me: "Tol, considered newly weds pa kayo. Dapat ngayon niyo pa lang nalalaman kung gaano kayo ka-wild!" hahaha
Panchita: "Minsan nga once in two months pa"
Me:" Seryoso ka ba?

Reyna rin kasi ng fried chicken itong si Panchita. Palibhasa maganda kaya hindi sanay na she's the one who's asking for something. napakataas ng pride.
I was surprised to hear the comments and advices from my friends. Anlaki na talaga ng pinagbago. Normally we'd be siding with Panchita, syempre friend mo muna. But now everyone balanced the scales. Everyone agreed that one of them should give up their pride. Affection should not be asked for. It is supposed to be automatic in marriage. The problem is that they both give each other a cold shoulder. Avoiding discussions, or sometimes talk but never really settled for a problem fix.

I felt happy (not about what's happening to Panchita) seeing how my friends matured to this day. I felt blessed and confident that when the time comes that i'll be the one who's going to need help, I'll gladly cry into their arms for refuge.

More maturity indicators were revealed as we moved to Morato for more talk plus drinking spree. That will be Part c of my post: The Revelation.

Panchita and I exchanged e-mails after a few days delivering a good news. They talked already and she was very proud to say that she's the one who gave up her pride first. Another maturity indicator for her! They are now working on it with the help of our prayers.

Wala ako sa office. Late ako dumating. Mas mamatamisin ko pa kasing mag-half day kesa sumakit ang ulo sa paggawa ng explanation letter at pagdedefend nito kapag pumasok akong late. At least productive pa rin. Nakapag sulat na naman ako.